Tell me if this sounds familiar...
You were asked by your coach or boss to set a couple goals for the year. You complied and did as they asked...so you set SMART goals - specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. Your coach or boss were proud of you when you shared your lofty goals.
The first few weeks you were motivated to reach your goals. Maybe you set goals like...average a certain amount of points per game or hit a sales quota. Either way, you approach these goals like a championship game...it's all or nothing. You either win or you lose.
You were more determined than ever to hit your goals and you knew that failure was not an option.
One month in and you hit an obstacle. You sprain your ankle and you may have to sit out a game or two. The trainer says you can try to play through it, but it could be one of those injuries that nags you for the rest of the season.
Your remind yourself that failure is not an option, so you decide to tough it out and play a few games on the sprained ankle. You play poorly each game and become even more frustrated because your goals (individual and team) are slowly slipping away.
Rather than feeling motivated to achieve your goals, you begin to question...is it even worth it? You used to arrive early to practice to get extra shots up, but now you determined that it's probably not even worth it. You used to take pride in being a positive force and leader among your teammates but now you consider it useless. With your goals out of reach, your attitude and behavior change for the worse.
Whenever your coach asks if you're okay, you resist the truth and say "yeah I'm alright". But the coach already knows something isn't right based on your change in attitude and behavior.
This story could go on...but I think you get the gist. Often times we set goals, and when we hit an obstacle, the voice of reason begins to whisper, "is it worth it?".
Now here's the million dollar question we should ask before setting the goal. What produces results?
A constant focus on results? Or consistent focus on our character?
Honestly, there's a time and a place for both. But in the high stakes world of athletics or business, it's easy to lose trust in the process and focus only on results...constantly looking for a shortcut...and to achieve the result "by any means necessary". Or, just give up on the goal all together.
So here's a challenge, try placing your focus on character first. Character is unwavering, regardless if times are good or times are bad.
On the other hand, placing your focus on just results will result in a conflicting internal dialogue...constantly asking yourself every time you hit an obstacle...is it worth it?
If you are interested in a great resource for you or your team that focuses on achieving maximum results through character development, then definitely check out Brett Ledbetter's site at whatdriveswinning.com. He's got some great stuff!